Flirting is all about sending messages, or nonverbal communication. Experts have fine tuned descriptions of basic flirting techniques. Be careful not to read into normal behavior, and similarly, don't send messages you don't mean. Here's what the experts had to say:

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    Raised eyebrows

    Research shows that when a potential mate appears, people raise their eyebrows slightly. This sign of flirting can be an unconscious sign of interest on the flirter's part.

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    Eye contact

    You know she's interested when she not only makes eye contact, but holds it for a significant amount of time. If you're across the room from one another, regular brief instances of eye contact may be strong signs of flirting.

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    Hair flick

    Women will flick their hair – you see this in movies all the time. Even women with really short hair can flick their hair. Remember Cameron Diaz in the first 'Charlie's Angels' movie? Total hair flick after she met the bartender – and her hair was almost as short as his!

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    Playing with accessories

    This signal from the opposite sex involves playing with earrings, twirling hair, and fiddling with necklaces. Men may offer similar signs of flirting: playing with their neckties or jingling the change in their pocket.

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    Leaning in

    If he leans close to you, he's giving you a nonverbal message that he wants to be closer (this may seem to be an obvious sign of flirting, but it's often misread).

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    Open body language

    This is a significant sign of flirting for both men and women. The opposite of open body language (closed body language, which is easier to describe) is turning away, crossing arms or legs, or pulling back.

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    Sideways glances

    You've seen the demure sideways glances – and perhaps you've even thrown a few. When you're attracted to someone, it can be difficult to meet their eyes. Sideways glances are a strong sign of flirting.

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    Looking at lips or body parts

    When you find yourself looking at his lips or jaw, you may be sending a flirting signal. This may be an unconscious sign of flirting – when you're attracted to someone, you can't help but to check out their assets!

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    You laugh at their jokes, no matter how silly or unfunny. This sign of flirting isn't all about attracting mates. Laughter can endear you to your boss or babysitter, which may make them acquiesce to your requests.

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    Light touches

    This is a fairly obvious sign of flirting. Lightly touching someone's arm, knee or shoulder shows interest. It's a nonverbal signal that you're open and friendly.